I also miss the person I lost, and believe me, I understand that guilt all too well.
For what it's worth, sometimes people leave here without knowing they're leaving. I can guarantee you that the person I lost would have definitely told me if he was planning on leaving. He'd have never willingly left without warning. Maybe it was the same case with your boyfriend.
And you don't have to be ready for something committed. You don't even have to want something committed. Look, it's all about how you feel about it, you know? If you feel you're ready to go out there and spend time with people, have fun with something a little more casual, then go for it. You're not betraying anyone, there's no crime in not wanting to be alone, and in wanting to enjoy life, in whatever way.
I'll tell you something a friend told me, once. There's no right way to do this. There's no right way to get over someone, or to move forward. You should just do what feels right to you, not everyone else.
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For what it's worth, sometimes people leave here without knowing they're leaving. I can guarantee you that the person I lost would have definitely told me if he was planning on leaving. He'd have never willingly left without warning. Maybe it was the same case with your boyfriend.
And you don't have to be ready for something committed. You don't even have to want something committed. Look, it's all about how you feel about it, you know? If you feel you're ready to go out there and spend time with people, have fun with something a little more casual, then go for it. You're not betraying anyone, there's no crime in not wanting to be alone, and in wanting to enjoy life, in whatever way.
I'll tell you something a friend told me, once. There's no right way to do this. There's no right way to get over someone, or to move forward. You should just do what feels right to you, not everyone else.