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[otherflash]

Hypothetically speaking, what would you do if the person you were in love with literally forgot you existed? Or, what if you remember having a life with this person except it technically never happened for them?

Would you try to build a connection with them? Would it even be fair to do that? Would you simply try to move on?

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text | un: didi

[thelast]

I would only try to reconnect with them after making sure they're aware that I knew them before and how. Otherwise I'm just being selfish.

At least that's been my experience.

[otherflash]

While I agree they should be told, it's a lot to put on someone.

[ The weight of the expectations and pressure that it brings would probably bury him if the situation was reversed. Of course, Linda has always been the stronger one between them. ]

text; un Treasure.princess

[thegreatninja]

Why not go, 'Hey, we used to date. I know you don't remember. Want to try it out with me because otherwise I'm going to be awkward and sad?'

Point is. I don't think it matters. You have the chance to make new memories here.

:p

[otherflash]

But the chance to make new memories is actually part of the problem. I'm here and she's not.

[ The other side to all this is he's had people tell him he needs to let go of the past that isn't wholly his and concentrate on moving forward. But whatever future he has in this place most likely won't include her and that makes him feel guilty. ]

Text | un: arcarius

[angelic_archer]

I've had my memory messed but the other person remembered it. We remember different versions of reality.

I also know someone that is going through something like what you described.

[otherflash]

You could say my memories of this person come from a different reality from the one we live in back home.

[ The truth is the memories are from the same reality prior to the time-line getting manipulated. Being stuck outside of time had allowed him to see all that he had lost. ]

How is your friend handling it?

text; un: anonymous

[deathkid]

[ this strikes a chord. he remembers the day percy jackson showed up at camp jupiter without a memory except for his name. it had been a shock for nico, especially when the older boy almost remembered him. it had also been a bit heartbreaking because he'd been searching for percy, not just for annabeth, percy's girlfriend, but also because he'd been so in love with percy at the time. to have all the memories of what they'd been through together wiped away and stung, but it had been his duty to not mess with fate. ]

it depends.
what would you gain from building a connection?
are they meant to remember or love you back?
are they happy with their lives now
and what's the chance you might ruin that happiness?
basically, you have to think about how it would affect them.

[otherflash]

[ Those are the same questions Wally has been asking himself for the last few months.

Knowing his life with Linda and their love has been stolen from them back home due to time being manipulated makes it difficult to simply give it up, but a part of him can't help but feel he's being unfair to her by trying to have some semblance of a connection with her.

Being stuck here without her has added another layer to the situation. ]

I've been trying to do that. I just don't know what the right thing to do is.

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[alchemyfreak]

I think they deserve to know.

[This happened all the time in places like Purg, and although Ed had tried not to let people know they were even friends in the past here, there it was different. It was only honest to give a person the heads up that their experiences were not the same as the other versions that had been there before them.

He'd told Lockon and Lyle that he knew them both even though they would have no memory of him. If Taiga showed up here wouldn't he try to befriend her, too?]

[otherflash]

[ The funny thing is this is actually something Wally had been wrestling with back home. Right now he's reexamining the choices he made during that time and trying to figure out what it means, if anything, for his future here in this place. ]

But then what? Do you think it's possible to have an actual relationship with them after that even if they're open to the idea?

[ He knows it's not a question someone can answer with any sort of certainty because every person and relationship is different. But, he could use the opinion from someone who doesn't know him or Linda or how happy the two of them were together. Is the mismatched memories really a hurdle two people could get over? ]

text; un: d.grayson]

[fingerstripes]

Can't hurt to give it a shot, as long as you're honest about where you're coming from.

But I'm a hopeless romantic.

[ he sees you there, bro. ]

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[otherflash]

[ Wally drops all pretenses of anonymity when it comes to Dick and switches over to the private setting. It was their conversation during their outing outside the wall that has had him contemplating his situation with Linda and how it relates to his life here a lot lately in the first place. ]

I figured you'd say that. [ a beat ] Though what if "hopeless" is the key word there?

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[sweetlies]

It would depend entirely upon her, I think. Whether she wishes to try again or not.

Although, in my case, we've been betrothed since I was born, we would be expected to marry regardless.

[otherflash]

It's definitely her call. But is it even fair to put her in that position?

[ What if he is intruding on her life and she's just too nice to tell him she isn't interested? ]

video; un: soulbond

[alkahestic]

For a while, I forgot a lot of things, especially about me and my brother. People told me about the things we did together, but I had no memory of it at all. It was terrible because I wanted to know, even if it hurt.


I guess what I'm trying to say is that even if they forgot, they deserve to know the truth, even if it's painful.

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[otherflash]

[ It might be simpler if she just forgot because those experiences would still be a part of her in some way. Instead, it's a complicated situation where time was manipulated and history was rewritten. Wally is one of the very few who actually remembers part of his life before history was altered. ]

I've actually already told her. But sometimes it feels like just hanging out is asking too much of her.

video; username; GraveMistake

[hellshot]

Start at step one and don't fucking push your own views on the other person when they don't have the same experiences you do.

It'd be like meeting someone's twin and expecting them to be exactly the same, it's selfish.

If you really give a damn about them, you'll build it again.

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[otherflash]

But is that even possible? I'd never try to force or manipulate her, but those experiences are still part of me.

[ Is it possible to separate things like that? How could he ever be sure those experiences and memories aren't influencing him? ]

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[bestrobin]

Tell them.

( He didn't deal with this situation with someone he was in love with, all things considered. But he did go through it with Richard. So the question definitely hits close to home. )

[otherflash]

[ Wally isn't sure how much Damian can help in this particular situation, but he isn't in any position to turn down advice on the matter. ]

But doesn't doing that put expectations on the other person even if that's not the intent?

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[latrodectus]

[ Of course, her heart thinks of James, how they had made her forget him, and the current mess that is. And then the stange girl, following her around, with the strange conviction that something about her was missing. Neither of which she wants to discuss. ]

This sort of thing happens a lot here, yes?

[otherflash]

I don't know about a lot, but I wouldn't be surprised if at least a few people have had to go through something similar with how things work around here.

[ His situation is a bit different since it's something he was going through back home rather than a result of how this place operates. ]

text; @gamora

[godslay]

It would depend on why they have forgotten and if it was reversible.

[otherflash]

I guess the best way to describe it would be like saying time got reset and you're one of the few who remember what life was like before that happened.

[ One of the few who is aware of what has been lost when time had been stolen. ]

I don't think it's something that can be fixed.

text; un: xxreaperxx

[doxxing]

I'd remind them how lucky they are to have me.

Interesting hypothetical question. You sure this hasn't happened lately?

[otherflash]

That depends on your definition of lately. It's something I was dealing with back home.

[ No sense denying his hypothetical isn't so hypothetical for him. ]

I just thought some people might have experienced something similar.

[500gallontank]

[ You know what you need? You need relationship advice from someone who literally has never been in a relationship. The closest he ever came was with an assassin who tried to kill him. ]

Fight for what you want. Giving up means you don't give a fuck about them. Only what they think about you.

text; @chronicler

[scholiast]

(This is unfair, she's hypothetically going through a similar situation.)

I think that the noble answer is perhaps to say that you'd leave them be, but it doesn't always work out like that in the end. Feelings make everything more complicated, even if they are hypothetical.

I don't think I could move on.