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Eddie Thawne ([personal profile] causational) wrote in [community profile] riverview2018-04-24 06:42 pm

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Hey everyone! I don't post on here super often, but I've been laid up for a week now and I'm going a little crazy. Total cabin fever.

I used to see forums like this on the internet back home, and I thought it might be kind of fun here too, so I thought I'd give it a try, because reading those forums was always a lot of fun.

So, Crowd-Sourced Relationship Advice!

I turned on anonymous posting on here, so you can make a fake username and submit a description of a problem that you're having in your relationships, either romantic or at work or whatever, and other anonymous people can give you advice!

Or you can stay logged in on your real account. Up to you!
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[personal profile] antietam 2018-04-25 05:49 pm (UTC)(link)
What do you do if you're in a committed relationship but the two of you don't want the same things in life?
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[personal profile] bottombitch 2018-04-25 09:32 pm (UTC)(link)
that's pretty wide open
have you tried compromising?

I mean if they're deal-breakers
you might want to consider just being friends...
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[personal profile] antietam 2018-04-25 10:03 pm (UTC)(link)
I don't know if they're deal-breakers.

I'd compromise to keep the relationship but I worry one of us will end up unhappy.
Or have to give up something important.
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[personal profile] bottombitch 2018-04-25 10:06 pm (UTC)(link)
have you talked about it
between the two of you i mean
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[personal profile] antietam 2018-04-25 10:08 pm (UTC)(link)
No.
I think it's better if we avoid it while it's not a problem.
I'm just worried about when it will be a problem.

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[personal profile] bastardofipswich 2018-04-25 10:48 pm (UTC)(link)
fight each other
loser has to compromise
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[personal profile] antietam 2018-04-25 11:02 pm (UTC)(link)
The sad part is I can't tell if you're trying to be funny or if that's legitimate advice in your culture
Sounds Romanesque
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it's a sacred ritual where i'm from
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[personal profile] antietam 2018-04-26 10:31 pm (UTC)(link)
You wouldn't happen to know the divorce rates in your society would you?

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[personal profile] antietam 2018-04-26 12:27 am (UTC)(link)
Why are you on this advice page just to be an asshole
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[personal profile] apt666 2018-04-26 12:29 am (UTC)(link)
I'm not. So touchy.

It's not healthy to remain in a relationship where you want different things out of life.

Unless it's petty - like what you prefer for dinner, but those aren't really different things out of life, are they?

So you're either exaggerating or you need to break up.
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[personal profile] antietam 2018-04-26 12:32 am (UTC)(link)
We're not going to break up.
It's not something petty, but I doubt every couple in the world has agreed on how they want their lives to be

So there logically has to be a way to solve the problem.

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[personal profile] antietam 2018-04-26 12:27 am (UTC)(link)
Very
Pretty much complete opposites
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[personal profile] antietam 2018-04-26 10:32 pm (UTC)(link)
I don't think so.
They're major lifestyle decisions
You know, things both of us have to be a part of.
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[personal profile] panacean 2018-04-28 09:58 pm (UTC)(link)
I think the others have more or less the right of it, dear. If neither one of you can change or compromise, if what you're working for is more important than that compromise, even a relationship that feels good now won't last you forever.

I understand it, wanting to have things both ways. But life isn't that kind.
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[personal profile] antietam 2018-04-29 01:06 am (UTC)(link)
I guess I don't know what's more important
Love or the life I've always wanted
What would you choose?
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[personal profile] panacean 2018-04-30 12:35 am (UTC)(link)
It's one I've never had to make. There was never a love that kept me from the life I wanted. It's down to what you feel, what you think is right--no one can make the choice for you.

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[personal profile] somnioergosum 2018-04-29 01:33 am (UTC)(link)
go with it
if it's meant to be, you'll figure it out.


[Oh, God.]
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[personal profile] antietam 2018-04-29 02:10 am (UTC)(link)
That's what I've been doing
But I worry about when it'll come up
And how I'm supposed to figure it out.
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[personal profile] somnioergosum 2018-04-29 02:13 am (UTC)(link)
ask your bf/gf/whatever?

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smokedout: They come to find, all is sane ♪ (9 ♪ They look a little look at my brain)

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[personal profile] smokedout 2018-05-02 02:51 pm (UTC)(link)
leave. if you're not willing to force your goals, best thing you can do is seek them alone.
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[personal profile] antietam 2018-05-05 05:18 am (UTC)(link)
I've tried the alone thing before.
This is a lot better.
For a relationship advice forum, there's a lot of people suggesting I just end it.