@det.prettyboy; text

[causational]

Hey everyone! I don't post on here super often, but I've been laid up for a week now and I'm going a little crazy. Total cabin fever.

I used to see forums like this on the internet back home, and I thought it might be kind of fun here too, so I thought I'd give it a try, because reading those forums was always a lot of fun.

So, Crowd-Sourced Relationship Advice!

I turned on anonymous posting on here, so you can make a fake username and submit a description of a problem that you're having in your relationships, either romantic or at work or whatever, and other anonymous people can give you advice!

Or you can stay logged in on your real account. Up to you!

Comments

[jolting]

Well no.

You should probably take your head out of your ass first.

[technospeak]

Very helpful.

[jolting]

Glad to hear it.

[technospeak]

I admit, I am curious about what I said to make you go from somewhat helpful, if vague, advice to "take your head out of your ass."

[jolting]

Honestly? It was the "intelligent women" comment. Came off as condescending.

[technospeak]

Intelligence is one of the things I look for in a partner. How is that condescending? I work in STEM sciences, and would like to be with someone whose interests lie in those areas as well.

[jolting]

Sure, intellect is important, but you have to start up a conversation and get to know them first.

What if they don't live up to your intellectual standards but there are other things about them that you like? All I'm saying is you should be open to all facets of a person.

[technospeak]

Understandable. I suppose what I meant is where to find women who might share my interests rather than 'intelligent.'

Frankly, very few people live up to my intellectual standards. I know that comes across as arrogant, but it's simply a fact. I'm used to most people not being on my intellectual level, so I'm quite open to friendships and relationships with people being based on other things.

I suppose the real problem is that I'm not used to making friends outside of work or education settings. I'm not really much of a social creature.

[jolting]

You try going on Friendr? Everyone puts in a few interests there, and maybe you'll find a few that match yours.

That's how I met my boyfriend.

now with the right journal...

[technospeak]

I've dabbled a little, but if it's worked out for you, maybe I'll give it another try.

I've also never particularly used it with the more...broad tastes I'm starting to realize I might have here.

[jolting]

Assuming they put in their interests and filled out the biography in a helpful way, of course. But it's worth a shot.

[technospeak]

It is. For what it's worth, thank you for the advice and for bearing with me.

[jolting]

Good luck.