@det.prettyboy; text

[causational]

Hey everyone! I don't post on here super often, but I've been laid up for a week now and I'm going a little crazy. Total cabin fever.

I used to see forums like this on the internet back home, and I thought it might be kind of fun here too, so I thought I'd give it a try, because reading those forums was always a lot of fun.

So, Crowd-Sourced Relationship Advice!

I turned on anonymous posting on here, so you can make a fake username and submit a description of a problem that you're having in your relationships, either romantic or at work or whatever, and other anonymous people can give you advice!

Or you can stay logged in on your real account. Up to you!

Comments

<anon>

[bringbackgold]

I don't think it's selfish, but I also believe it's okay to simply accept gifts. Most of the time, gift giving is done without expectations.

And I can't say. I guess you have to make him talk. Or make it clear it has to be talked about. It's a normal fear here...so start there?

<anon>

[bespredel]

I know, and I know he likes doing it. But... I just wish I could contribute more, too. Spoil him the way he does me, because I love him that much. He's worth spoiling. He just makes it harder.

Yeah, I guess, but... I don't want to accidentally push him away when trying to get him to talk about it. I really love him, you know? I want to respect his space.

<anon>

[bringbackgold]

I get what you mean. Some people are just hard to shop for. I have some family that is really difficult. I mean, has he expressed like... that he cares about getting things in return? Maybe what you're doing already is fine.

Hm. That's tricky. I don't know. Honesty is a good policy, though.

<anon>

[bespredel]

Well, no. But... He's not exactly the most communicative person to begin with. He's pretty quiet about the things he wants or needs and just gets them himself. Which makes it hard to surprise him, because by the time I've gotten anything he's already gone and bought it himself.

Sure... honesty is great, if you're willing to talk about the thing you need to be honest about. It's not that he's dishonest, he doesn't exactly try to keep it from me or anything, he just... bottles it up and tries to brush it off as no big deal. When I think it's a bigger deal than he wants to let on, or tell me. And I just want to be there for him.

<anon>

[bringbackgold]

Ah. That can make it hard. I'd bet you're doing enough. I know I'd never want my significant other to think they weren't.

No one likes to talk about things that upset them, and it can't really be forced. I'd try to find a way to slide it into any other conversation.

<anon>

[bespredel]

I hope so. I just... Sometimes I don't know. He can be hard to read, no matter how much I love him.

I've tried, but... he just keeps telling me it's fine. That I shouldn't worry- but I know he's just bottling it up. He even posted about it to the network, but... he won't talk to me.

In a way, that hurts a little, I guess.

Re: <anon>

[bringbackgold]

[ there's the slightest suspicion now...]

I'm sure you know this, but there's probably no intention to hurt. Some people are just...difficult.