@det.prettyboy; text

[causational]

Hey everyone! I don't post on here super often, but I've been laid up for a week now and I'm going a little crazy. Total cabin fever.

I used to see forums like this on the internet back home, and I thought it might be kind of fun here too, so I thought I'd give it a try, because reading those forums was always a lot of fun.

So, Crowd-Sourced Relationship Advice!

I turned on anonymous posting on here, so you can make a fake username and submit a description of a problem that you're having in your relationships, either romantic or at work or whatever, and other anonymous people can give you advice!

Or you can stay logged in on your real account. Up to you!

Comments

[technospeak]

I never thought of it that way, that thinking my appearances matter that much could be an assumption that women are shallow. It's certainly not something I've ever consciously thought.

Thank you for the advice. I'll certainly keep it in mind next time I meet a woman I like.

[franciscoramon]

well we've all got a lot of unconscious assumptions and rules and ideas that can get in the way of connecting with other people and treating them right
just try to imagine stuff from her perspective, and also try treat her the way you would wanna be treated
kinda cliche advice but it's classic for a reason

[technospeak]

That makes a lot of sense. I suppose when I think about it in this context, when I imagine things from her perspective, all I can see are my own flaws. It makes it hard to be confident about my appeal.

[franciscoramon]

sounds like your self-esteem isn't so great right now
you got any friends in this place? people who knew you from home or that you've gotten close to here?
cuz my best advice is go to them and tell them what you just told me
and maybe they can start to help you see the rest of you, not just the flaws.

[technospeak]

Strangely, 'arrogant' is one of the terms people most often use to describe me, but yes, I do think you're right.

I do have several friends from home, but talking about our feelings is not exactly a strength of ours.

I'll look into it, though. Thanks.

[franciscoramon]

talking about your feelings is like learning a language
it's hard and awkward at first and you're gonna fuck up and say stupid shit you don't mean
but if you practice it gets a lot easier

👏🏽
good luck, dude