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[causational]

Hey everyone! I don't post on here super often, but I've been laid up for a week now and I'm going a little crazy. Total cabin fever.

I used to see forums like this on the internet back home, and I thought it might be kind of fun here too, so I thought I'd give it a try, because reading those forums was always a lot of fun.

So, Crowd-Sourced Relationship Advice!

I turned on anonymous posting on here, so you can make a fake username and submit a description of a problem that you're having in your relationships, either romantic or at work or whatever, and other anonymous people can give you advice!

Or you can stay logged in on your real account. Up to you!

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[volitaunt]

Glad to hear that. Sort of. The last part. I hope you're right about the brother part.

[ Poe sighs quietly, feeling worn. ]

I've been fighting for a long time. Losing people for a long time. They've died on missions I've led. But I've never ordered people into death like that before, knowing the odds and not caring. I...

[ He doesn't know what happened to him. It seemed right in the moment, it seemed imperative. It might even have been a good decision on some level--what if the dreadnought had still been operable when they all dropped out of hyperspace? How long could the fleet have lasted?

But he couldn't have known that. In the moment, he wanted blood. ]

I don't know. That's where it started, everything here, remembering that, and I've just... [ He never pulled out of that tailspin. He thought he had. He hadn't. ]

[jolting]

I think I understand. The deaths weigh on you either way, but there's a difference. When you try your hardest and still fail to save lives, it's painful. But when you don't care about the consequences and go forward anyway....

[Their situations are different but he does know what that's like, to not care about the consequences as long as it achieves his goal]

It's an even harder hit when you remember all you've done, all you've cost. You can't escape it and you hate yourself for what you did, and it just keeps spiraling. It'll get to a point where you're reckless and self-destructive. It's hard to pull out of that, I know.

You need to find some way to prove to yourself that you can still do something good, that you can help. I don't know what that would be for you, and it's fine if you have to keep assuring yourself. But seriously, find something.

[volitaunt]

[ It'll get to a point where you're reckless and self-destructive.

Poe almost, almost laughs.

God, he owes Finn about a dozen and a half apologies. ]

I'm not sure what it would be either. Work...

It's hard being there, it's hard not being there. I've got that, I've got a ship to fix. That's pretty much what I've got, here. Anything I could really be useful for is back home.

[jolting]

You're not in your world, and whatever you did there can't be helped here and now, so focus on what you can do in this world.