@det.prettyboy; text

[causational]

Hey everyone! I don't post on here super often, but I've been laid up for a week now and I'm going a little crazy. Total cabin fever.

I used to see forums like this on the internet back home, and I thought it might be kind of fun here too, so I thought I'd give it a try, because reading those forums was always a lot of fun.

So, Crowd-Sourced Relationship Advice!

I turned on anonymous posting on here, so you can make a fake username and submit a description of a problem that you're having in your relationships, either romantic or at work or whatever, and other anonymous people can give you advice!

Or you can stay logged in on your real account. Up to you!

Comments

<anon>

[technospeak]

To some extent. Certainly enough to try a relationship, like I was back home.

I've certainly tried to tone down my abrasiveness, but I haven't had much luck. Frankly, I don't entirely understand what it is that I do that comes across that way, just that I do. I suppose I'm just struggling with finding someone who might be willing to look past it or embrace it.

<anon>

[11calls]

Okay so, honestly what I would do if I were in your position would try to make friends with someone first. I think relationships that start as friendships go better as a rule.

But while you're working on being friends with someone, tell them that you aren't doing things necessarily to be an ass. It doesn't need to be verbal even, but also let them know that they're free to call you on it.

And I will say bonus points for cutting off creepy ass dude below.

So, I think you definitely have a lot of self awareness in what you are. That's really helpful, but look at it this way: if someone was doing what you were doing to them to you would it piss you off? If it does, apologize and then promise to try and do better and mean it.

<anon>

[technospeak]

That makes sense.

I'm honestly not sure what to say. Thank you. I appreciate the advice and I'll take it to heart.

If we weren't anonymous, I'd invite you for coffee to thank you. In an entirely platonic way.

<anon>

[11calls]

Well, if you do end up needing someone to platonically play your wingwoman or just need to talk or whatever...


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A friend of mine back home can come off as well... an arrogant ass, so it doesn't bother me.